A Thought On Female Friends And Crushes
If I have a female friend, usually there’s some mild attraction, since the reasons I would want someone as a friend have a lot of overlap with the reasons I’d want them as a lover.
Not always. But the thing is, I’m intensely sapiosexual – which is to say I value people’s thoughts over their bodies. (I have attractions to women who I literally do not know what they look like, but hoo boy can they express themselves.) So for me, friendship is in a very real way a form of attraction. I don’t necessarily share the fundamentals of that attraction with them (most of my female friends don’t want to know), but it’s there, a constant backbeat of desire.
And yes, it gets tiring on occasion, all these silly crushes fulminating in my mind. I don’t know how to turn it off. Attraction is as attraction does; the most I can do is not follow up.