In Which I Talk About The Male Orgasm, And Feminism, And Stupid Ferretts

As most of y’all know, I’ve moved my explicit writings on sex over to FetLife, and only refer to ’em here when I think they’re particularly important.
In this case, I think it’s important.
I’ve written an essay over at Fet called “The Guilty Orgasm: One Guy’s Perspective On Guygasms,” which in turn is a response to a much better essay by a woman, titled “Men’s Orgasms: A Woman’s Perspective.” My essay has well over a thousand likes, and a fascinating comment stream of 200 or so comments; hers has an amazing 2,500 likes and 500+ comments, and I think should be mandated reading for men who have sex with women.
I’m not going to summarize overmuch, but the core point is how the societal expectation of how men should be in bed actually in many ways makes sex less enjoyable for both the woman and the man… and the two essays are a really good analysis of how men’s behavior is affected by a patriarchy just as much as women’s is.  It’s about vulnerability, and why that’s really difficult for guys in bed.
In some circumstances, I might post the essay on my blog, but in that case, the essay that inspired it would still be behind a login wall, and I’d really encourage you to read both.  Unfortunately, bugmenot has blocked FetLife, so it’s harder to log in, but a throwaway email address and two minutes’ worth of creating an account will get you in.  It’s an interesting discussion, and worth your time if you can get to it.