Are You Born Polyamorous?
Someone asked me whether people are born innately polyamorous, or whether people can change from monogamous inclinations to become poly. And my answer is simple:
It depends on the person.
I think some people are polyamorous, and some people aren’t. And some people think they are one way, until they discover the right set of circumstances, and then they aren’t.
So I don’t think there’s some training regimen that will make everyone gay or poly or whatnot – I think some people will never be, some people will never be anything but, and a lot of people could go one way or the other depending on where they are at the moment and what’s deemed acceptable by their neighbors.
As always, the best way to find out is to ask this individual human you’re dealing with. And to pay attention to how they react to things. If you’re lucky, maybe you’re the sort of person who makes them feel amenable to your style of -amory or -exuality.
Or maybe you’re not. In which case, move on.